When you are flirting with someone stood next to you, you can pick up direct signals from their words and subconscious signs from their body language. Often when you are flirting with someone, you will both touch each other and look into their eyes. This physical contact is not possible over the internet, so if you want to flirt onlineyou will need to adopt some strategies that will help you to flirt successfully.
When you communicate online, it is usually best to use a conservative tone and avoid flirtatious behavior. As you chat more with other people, you will come to learn their comfort boundaries, and develop an idea of who will be happy with chat that is more casual.
To help conversation flow, ask plenty of questions and encourage the other person to talk. People like to talk about their own lives, so talk about their daily activities and interests, as well as your own. It is human nature to be attracted to people that take an interest in your life. If you ask questions, you demonstrate that you are interested in them and they are more attracted to you in turn.
It is always best to try to use correct English spellings and grammar rather than the myriad of common internet abbreviations. You both might know what BRB (be right back), LOL (laugh out loud) and ROFL (roll on floor laughing) mean, but you can easily confuse someone with some of the more obscure abbreviations. The same goes for emoticons, swearing and crude sexual references – until you really get to know the other person, you do not know if you are going to confuse or offend them.
As the chat becomes more casual, try not to be overly flirtatious with them at first. At first, it is inappropriate to discuss intimate situations and use sexual language until you are sure the other person is comfortable with it. If the other person leads the conversation in that direction and you are both happy to continue, then follow their lead and enjoy the chat.
As much as it can be fun to turn the conversation to sexual matters, sometimes it is good to keep things back for when you meet the person. If you know everything about somebody, then how are you going to get to know them when you actually spend time together?
One final tip for online flirting is to be you. You might think it is a great idea to act a persona when you are online, but this reflects on you in a negative light to anyone who later gets to find out the real you. Any online relationship that is not based on honesty at the start of the relationship will probably not last.
If you enjoy a great chat with someone, then remember to send a message to say thanks. Many people will really appreciate that you took the time for a little act of kindness and be more likely to have more online chats with you.
When you chat online with someone, especially over time, you will learn to sprinkle compliments into the conversation. Everyone likes to hear a well-delivered and sincere compliment, and not just about their appearance. Try to compliment them on how they act as well as how they look.
With the rise of internet dating, it is increasingly important to learn how to flirt online. It is great to be able to write well-structured and intelligent sentences, but in reality, most people like to chat to someone who takes a genuine interest in them. The key is to ask many questions, allow the other person the time to answer and be genuinely interested in what they have to say.